Privately Arranged Funeral
If you wish to use the services of a funeral director, it can be a good idea to contact several for an estimate of the costs involved, or to ask a friend to do this on your behalf.
The Children’s Funeral Fund for England can help to pay for some of the costs of a funeral for child under 18 or a stillborn baby after the 24th week of pregnancy.
It is not means-tested: what you earn or how much you have in savings will not affect what you get.
The burial or cremation must take place in England. For further information www.gov.uk/child-funeral-costs
You also have the option to carry out the entirety of the funeral yourself, without using a funeral director and we can provide you with advice and guidance.
You can choose a religious or non-religious service. You can choose to have a Religious minister or civil celebrant or a service taken by family and friends. You can have music and reading of your choice. You are welcome to take photographs in the chapel. You can also have the service recorded.
If there are other children in the family, to help them feel included in this important event, try to involve them in discussions about the funeral. They might like to contribute a favourite song, poem or reading. Provided they are prepared for what they will see and hear, if they are offered the option to attend the funeral or a special goodbye, most find it helpful. You may want to ask another adult who is close to the children to help support them if they choose to come to the funeral.
Each baby is cremated individually (twins can be cremated together in the same coffin or in individual coffins). You can collect the ashes or arrange to scatter them in the Garden of Remembrance.